Last night, Rich and I ventured to Kentwood, La to hear Jerry Rankin speak at a Mission’s Rally. The rally lasted a little longer than we ever imagined which left us starving as we started back to Tickfaw. We stopped in Amite at a Wendy’s to grab a cheap dinner. Little did I know that I was about to end up in the ladies’ restroom in tears before I could even eat my dinner. When I was single, I thought that someone constantly asking me when I was going to finally get hitched was the worst question anyone could ask me. It use to almost bring me to tears but they were usually feelings of frustration and feelings of no self-worth. I would avoid people who constantly asked me that question. I never knew there was another question that could make me feel bad. Rich and I walked up to order and right after I ordered the cashier asked me when I was due. I looked at her and said excuse me and of course she repeated the terrible words and I managed to mumble out that I wasn’t pregnant. She didn’t apoligize or look embarrased as she then said, Oh, I just saw the little pudge and thought you were pregnant. Rich walked away and I just stood there with a blank look on my face. I then walked over to Rich and excused myself to the restroom. Then I stood in the restroom staring in the mirror with tear streaming down my face. I was horrified. When I finally got myself together, my husband met me at the door. He grabbed my face and kissed my cheek and told me that I was beautiful. As I sat eating my food in silence, my mind was running wild with negtive thoughts about my body. My husband then grabbed my hand and firmly told me to stop and then we left that horrible place.
This was the worst question ever asked. I have been struggling with my weight since we moved here and this moment whomped it up. So I guess I can stay bitter or I can get my pre-wedding body back. But to any person who doesn’t know, NEVER ask a women her due date unless she told you she is pregnant or she has a huge baby belly bump that can’t be mistaked!
A girl asked that? A guy I could understand (kinda), but a girl? You should have returned the favor. Sorry to hear that. You should call the management. I mean, seriously, that’s probably near the top of list list of stupid and insensitive things to say.
Jennie – I’m sooo sorry! You handled it well and even more important, Rich handled it well. You have an amazing husband who obviously loves you for you. Remember that your weight shouldn’t be about other people’s opinion – it’s about your own opinion of yourself.
Love you!
That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. I think you look better now than you ever have before…”love looks good on you” as they say.
You DO NOT look pregnant. Not even close. To be honest, the fact that she didn’t apologize or seem embarrassed says to me that she never really thought you looked pregnant, she was just trying to be a jerk. My guess is she DOESN’T have an amazing husband, and she’s working at WENDY’S for goodness sake, and she’s probably a little bitter about her own life…and unfortunately decided to take it out on someone who seemed happy and satisfied with her life.
I would have punched her in the face! Or at least had a Spring Feast of 1998 incident.
Thanks for the encouragement guys! Alan, my wonderful husband filed a complaint online. I had to beg him not to make a scene while at Wendy’s. He was so mad. Thank you Jenn and Diana. I don’t think I look pregnant either but it did embarrass me. And Jake, my husband was really surprised that I didn’t punch her in the face. I seriously thought about it after I came out of the bathroom!
I made that mistake years ago. And it’s one I’ll never make again. Of course, in my case, the woman had just had a baby, so she still had a little around the tummy. But, I’ll never ask a woman when she’s due unless I know her personally and know she’s pregnant. I don’t care if the woman is nine months pregnant and going into labor. I still won’t ever ask that question again!
That is absolutley ridiculous… not only is she rude for saying it but then to not apologize for that obsurd comment is simply unacceptable. Forget about it people like that are just miserable on the inside and we should all be praying for her. You are just the way God wants you right now… Believe it Sister! I need to shed a few pounds myself but I believe God has me just where He wants me and I am happy with that. When it is the right time God will give me the will power to jump back on the diet band wagon maybe sooner than later.
I love you girl and I think you look HOT!!!
Yah! A comment from Micheal, it makes me smile:) And Manders, I love you too! Thank you for the encouragement!